We're still really struggling with getting Kayley to go to sleep at night. If she takes a nap at all, I wake her up after an hour and a half (she used to sleep 2 1/2 to 3 hours) but she'll still be up until 10:00 or a little later. If she doesn't take a nap, she falls asleep in her highchair at dinner time. If that happens, we put her in her crib and sometime she'll stay there and sleep and other times she'll wake up and not what to go to sleep. If she stays asleep, again she'll be up until 10:00 or later and if she doesn't she's a crabby mess, and still will be up until at least 9:00. Yesterday I didn't put her down for a nap thinking that she would go to bed at 9:00ish or even 8:30, as opposed to 10:00 or 11:00. But we went for a walk at 4:00 and by the time we got back around 4:30 she was asleep. I put her down in her crib and got her up a half hour later. But she was cranky and wouldn't stop crying so I laid down on the couch with her and she slept another half hour or so (and I think I dozed off too which felt great!). She was still pretty cranky after that and wouldn't eat much dinner but got over it when we put her Elmo DVD in. But she was up until a little after 10:00 again. So it doesn't seem to matter whether I put her down for a nap or not. If I don't she sneaks one in later and is still up late.
Part of the problem is that we can't just put her in her crib at bedtime and have her go to sleep. She jumps up and down and screams and cries until we get her up. Again, if she wasn't a twin we'd just let her cry but after 10 minutes or so I start to feel really bad for Olivia so I go get her up. We can't put her in our room and let her cry there because Paul sometimes goes to bed before she does (lately) because he gets up so early for work. We could maybe put her in the spare bedroom but it's right across the hall from Olivia and wouldn't be much of a buffer. So we end up just letting her wander around the loft (upstairs family/TV room) until she falls asleep on the floor and then I put her in her crib. But now she knows that all she has to do is throw a fit and she'll get to stay up. We can't win.